The human condition, namely navigating with our heart and mind can be challenging. Even more challenging than the individual human condition can be our relationships. This is because our relationships are where our personality with all of its wounds and defenses, family history, past relationships and experiences, and our deepest fears are brought to the surface. Even with this human challenge, we know deep down, instinctively, that love in our relationships is where our deepest happiness lies.
The longest-running study on happiness, the 80+ year Harvard study on adult development shows very clearly that a loving partner, and close connected relationships with family and friends and community is the key to our happiness and also our longevity.
Loving relationships work best when both people are working to become whole themselves and want to bring this journey toward wholeness and happiness to each other. The same applies to families, we all need to grow as individuals and meet each other from the best version of ourselves. At the same time life has its difficulties, so at times, relationships will require giving unselfishly to support the other. It is indeed these deeds or acts of authentic giving love that really build trust that we are truly cared for by another person.
Couples therapy, marriage counseling, relationship coaching, family therapy, family coaching and coaching to support children appointments all have a therapeutic aspect to them with us, because healthy relationships are themselves therapeutic by nature and evidence shows that it is the relationship that has the greatest affect on positive change on another, not the method or style of therapy, counseling or coaching. However, we use evidence-based methods with clients and working with us is about moving forward and working to build fulfilling, enjoyable and satisfying relationships. We help couples, families and the parent-child relationship to become clear on what they need to work on to develop secure relationships, to emotionally regulate, and help them to work on their personal values, goals and dreams or vision. Although there are similarities in relationship dynamics, the aspects needing work in every relationship will be unique to the relationship. The reality of love is, for the openness of love to flow we cannot control one another, we can only love, respect and remain open to help another grow. This is why a loving relationship with a partner makes us feel so alive, because it is at its core risky, the same applies with relationships in families, and the parent-child relationship, they activate and engage our heart.
If you are facing challenges, or wanting to uncover what is going on beneath the surface of your relationship, family or parent-child relationship and are willing to work at it, we can help you.