The International Authority for Professional Coaching & Mentoring (IAPC&M) and Why I Support this Coaching Accreditation Body, Tony Vernon, HWC, NMC, AMC, MMC Coaching, counseling or therapy are complex processes that are provided as services offered by human-beings with their own personalities, strengths, weaknesses, overall experiences and skills. How does this serve the public well? Indeed, coaching or counseling a client, couple, parent, child, teen or a group of people needs a complex adaptive system. Coaches need to use competency and capability to help their clients succeed as a measuring system in sessions. This makes sense as often clients in…

Renowned author Nathaniel Branden has exquisitely articulated the various aspects of love in this book. He gracefully defines love and why it is born, grows, and sometimes dies. We recommend this book to all couples wanting to deepen their knowledge of love. As human beings, many of us wonder how romantic love evolves. There is a thin line between immature and mature love and in his 1980 publication The Psychology of Romantic Love, Nathaniel Branden explores many aspects of love. Indeed, he takes his readers on an intuitive ride to explore the various levels of romantic love. Nathaniel clearly explains…

Dyadic Developmental Psychotherapy or DDP is a framework where looked-after and supported children experiencing traumatic incidents are given skilled help to combat the after-effects. Do you want to know more? Let us discuss DDP, its utility, and it’s time of application in a child’s life. Understanding DDP – the involvement of children  ‘Dyadic’ means ‘related to two people’ – here they are the children and their caregiver, and this therapy helps with the problems in their relationship with each other. This discipline helps to rekindle the bond between caregivers and their children; especially, it enriches the emotional connection between the two…

Do you think that material gifts will make your kids the happiest? According to  statistics, parents who provide children with experiences instead of material gifts build a stronger relationship with their children. The experiences can be anything from summer vacations to a visit to the zoo. You don’t need to invest a whole fortune to bond with your children. You don’t need to take them on international vacations. Even a visit to the local museum during the weekend can be quite memorable. The number of families going on vacations is steadily rising every year, and this is a good thing….

Cranial Sacral Therapy (CST) is an immediate, firsthand treatment process that focuses on alleviating the tension and relieving the stress in the central nervous system. The therapy was a contribution to medical science by John e. Upledger who was a renowned osteopathic physician. In the 1970s, John was working on neck surgery and noticed some rhythmic movements, which later got referred to as the Craniosacral system. He kept up with his cranial bone motion research while contributing to the world by working as a professor and clinical researcher of Biomechanics at Michigan State University. Eventually, it led to the evolution…

Intense emotions are difficult to manage, and most if not all affect the ability of the brain to process thoughts optimistically. A perceived threat to someones safety activates the body’s natural ‘fight or flight’ response against this perceived threat. It is not limited to adults only, but children too. Since the frontal cortex of a child is not fully developed, children find it difficult to handle anger or other intense emotions. Hence children often end up lashing out with their emotions and anger, or disappointment. It takes years for children to gain the capacity to manage emotions constructively, and as…

Summary: According to a new study, empathy training can help children and their mothers to strengthen their eternal bonding. This study focused on mothers, but of course fathers need empathy training as much as, if not more than mothers. Parents who have middle school-aged children admit that adolescence is indeed a tough time to deal with. Baker University and the University of Kansas of the US have jointly conducted a study. They have found that specialized empathy skills training can help mothers and children improve their relationships and achieve life satisfaction. During the study, researchers from these two universities offered…

It is becoming increasingly common for therapists, psychologists and counselors to utilize coaching techniques in their practice. Why is this so? Research shows that goal-based therapies carve a pathway for and allow measurement of progress. Creating a goal is a collaborative process. With this collaboration comes an ownership of the goal. This motivates the client to move forward and take pride in the progress. It also helps the client to not slack off on achieving milestones. In the fast-changing economy of today the productivity, continuity and growth of an organization is determined by employees’ qualifications, both personal and professional. But…

Intersubjectivity has become a topic of considerable interest among psychoanalysts, psychologists, therapists and advanced professional coaches. In its most basic sense the term intersubjectivity refers to the interaction between two subjects: self and other. It is mostly used in a therapist-client or coach-client context but is particularly useful to look at when working with couples in a loving relationship because all couples bring intersubjectivity or another word would be their dynamic to the work. Their intersubjective experience or dynamic consists of: strengths, vulnerabilities, stories, wounds, and often attachment-based issues that get played out in their loving relationship. The sharing of intersubjective experience…

Attachment theory explains how we behave and react in relationships. Our attachment style is set up in our early interactions with our parents or primary caregivers as a child. An attachment style has a huge impact on how we interact with others as adults. Your attachment style developed in your early childhood interactions dramatically affects how you act, interact and behave in a loving relationship. Attachment theory has more evidence and validity behind it, and is a more accurate way of understanding what drives a person in life and relationships than psychiatric or DSM terms like Narcissism, Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD),…

Our attachment to our parents in our initial infancy years of life is a vitally important period that, to a degree, shapes you for the rest of your life. There is now a huge amount of evidence to support the validity of attachment theory and how our early years affect our ability to form close relationships as an adult. Our loving relationships are too largely defined by the kind of bonding, and interactions we experienced as a child with our parents or primary caregivers. Mary Ainsworth and John Bowlby, two developmental psychologists, are attributed to the development of attachment theory…

An attachment style dictates mostly how an individual relates to other people and is developed during the initial stages of our life as a child. They are established during infancy from interactions with our parents or primary caregivers. However, the style of attachment we develop as a child will stay with us all throughout our life unless we become aware of it, and work to change it by working with a professional counselor, therapist or credentialed coach. Our attachment style will play out in all of our social relationships and particularly in our loving relationship. To put it in another…

An attachment style is the specific way in which we relate to others in relationships. Attachment styles are very powerful and strongly define how we respond emotionally and in interactions with others as an adult. People differ in their attachment styles based on their early interactions with their primary caregivers, usually their mother and father. Attachment theory was introduced by Mary Ainsworth and John Bowlby in the 1950s. It now has a huge amount of evidence behind its validity. According to their work, attachment styles are shaped and developed in our early childhood as a response to the relationship we…

Commitment makes the difference in a loving relationship, because loving relationships are not easy. The story that Hollywood has sold us is not real. Loving relationships open us up in a way that is beautiful, but at the same time this openness also presents a new challenge, we are exposed and very vulnerable to being hurt, and our deepest wounds are often brought up to the surface. Although this is a challenge, it presents an opportunity to heal. I suggest the purpose of a loving relationship is to help us to heal from our wounds. Escaping through the Rational Mind…

Loves Hidden Policy is a small, local business based in South Florida. Our aim is to help one couple, family or parent-child relationship at a time. We provide face to face sessions and occasionally work on Zoom with a client but this is rarely, as face to face work is much more powerful in our experience than online. We don’t feel Coaching, Counseling, or Therapy is enough anymore by itself, the world has become incredibly face-paced and demanding so we also provide email and voice dictation follow up to all sessions and send education in the form of digital assets…

Cranial Sacral Therapy, or CST, is a hands-on treatment procedure aimed at relieving the tensions in the central nervous system. It was developed by John E. Upledger, an osteopathic physician. While he was assisting a neck surgery in the 1970s, he observed the rhythmic movements which later came to be known as the craniosacral system. He continued his research on cranial bone motion while serving as a clinical researcher and Professor of Biomechanics at Michigan State University. It led to the development of Cranial Sacral Therapy. This article explores the topic in detail and how it helps in boosting your…

← Read or Listen to our Loves Hidden Policy Articles Superficial Love As a professional relationship/couples coach I am often helping or teaching others to love each other more, but often not intellectually with goals, as you might think as a coach. The human ego lives in a state of wanting to ‘get more, and wanting to get what we want’ from another, but this is based on ‘getting’ and so is superficial when it comes to a loving relationship. Because pure love for another has no selfish intent, instead it has, an open-hearted, giving nature that fully supports the…

← Read or Listen to our Loves Hidden Policy Articles Psychotherapy has been proven to be an effective way to help people heal from various emotional difficulties and mental distresses, and coaching too has proven effective at helping people to achieve what they really want in life. One of the challenges that psychotherapy and coaching has been trying to resolve is to help people struggling with problems that are rooted in memories of a distressing experience. Different types of psychotherapy and coaching, including Neuro-Linguistic Programming have been hardly successful in working with such people. That is where Eye Movement Integration…

EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. It is one of the effective techniques used to treat trauma, post-traumatic stress disorder, and other emotional distresses. EMDR helps people to heal from symptoms and emotional distresses that are a result of traumatic experiences in the past. It helps to lessen the impact of memories or traumatic experiences on an individual. Defining EMDR EDMR uses rhythmic left-right (bilateral) brain stimulation as a method to treat people suffering from trauma and emotional distresses. It focuses directly on the traumatic memory or event…

← Read or Listen to our Loves Hidden Policy Articles Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), which is commonly referred to as EFT tapping, is a powerful treatment that desensitizes negative emotions that are not beneficial, or physical or psychological distress or physical pain. It is best used by someone skilled in psychology (therapist, psychotherapist, coach, etc.) because the emotional language used alongside EFT benefits the overall outcome. If someone has a good understanding of their emotional world they can self-administer the technique, but better results will be experienced with a skilled EFT practitioner to support the process. EFT is both a…