Why do we fall in love with a significant other? It is probably one of the most sought after answers for human-beings. What creates the spark, the lust, the connection, the attraction or the experience of falling in love with another? Love Begins to Flow in the Heart When people fall in love, they…
Community IS Medicine: How Community and Connection Facilitates Resilience, by Tony Vernon, HWC, NMC, AMC, MMC Human beings are built biologically to interact and be social. The level and quality of social interactions may differ from person to person, but the need for community and connection is biologically inherent for humans. Social connections with meaning…
By Tony Vernon, HWC, NMC, AMC, MMC Ever wondered why you go for ice cream or yogurt, or a big meal when you are stressed? Are we craving touch and trying to replace human touch with “inner touch” by eating food? The inside of your body is stimulated by eating food, in a similar way…
By Tony Vernon, HWC, NMC, AMC, MMC Understanding Depression Many people have described depression as a black curtain of despair coming down over their lives. Depressed people lose their ability to concentrate and have little to no energy most of the time. They become increasingly more irritable and often say to other people they are…
Acceptance is a Skill and Way of Being that Allows your Partner to Relax and Feel Safe in a Loving Relationship Acceptance is a skill and way of being and needs to be at the center of a loving relationship. Acceptance provides a sense of safety that your partner can be themselves in a loving…
The Adverse Childhood Experiences (The ACEs Study) focuses on the adverse impact of traumatic or adverse childhood events on adult health. Adverse childhood experiences include physical and emotional abuse, mental illness of the caregiver, neglect, household violence, disruption at home and school, birth-related issues, etc. The ACEs Study The first ACEs study was conducted in…
There are hundreds and thousands of people struggling with goal setting. Some continue to struggle, while others seek professional help from a coach. People know that consulting a coach might be helpful in the reflection and evaluation process. As a coach, your responsibility is to help the client decide upon all the individual actions they…
Playfulness is a skill and is about creating an atmosphere of light-heartedness, fun and enjoyment when you communicate. Seriousness is needed sometimes, but not most of the time. Playfulness means learning to use a warm, light-hearted tone of voice with your partner, like you might use when having fun with a good friend. It’s about…
Empathy is a skill, and can be used to validate the importance of your partner’s reality: thoughts, feelings or experience. When you use empathy in the right moments, your partner can feel your care and compassion for them in your relationship. Being empathic means you are actively showing your partner that their inner life: feelings,…
Curiosity is a skill and can be used to connect to another person’s reality, and to get to know them better, but it is an essential skill needed to connect in a loving relationship. When curiosity-based questions are used without agenda or judgment, with an accept-ing sincere tone they can help you to get to…
