Attachment theory explains how we behave and react in relationships. Our attachment style is set up in our early interactions with our parents or primary caregivers as a child. An attachment style has a huge impact on how we interact with others as adults. Your attachment style developed in your early childhood interactions dramatically affects how you act, interact and behave in a loving relationship. Attachment theory has more evidence and validity behind it, and is a more accurate way of understanding what drives a person in life and relationships than psychiatric or DSM terms like Narcissism, Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD),…

Our attachment to our parents in our initial infancy years of life is a vitally important period that, to a degree, shapes you for the rest of your life. There is now a huge amount of evidence to support the validity of attachment theory and how our early years affect our ability to form close relationships as an adult. Our loving relationships are too largely defined by the kind of bonding, and interactions we experienced as a child with our parents or primary caregivers. Mary Ainsworth and John Bowlby, two developmental psychologists, are attributed to the development of attachment theory…

An attachment style dictates mostly how an individual relates to other people and is developed during the initial stages of our life as a child. They are established during infancy from interactions with our parents or primary caregivers. However, the style of attachment we develop as a child will stay with us all throughout our life unless we become aware of it, and work to change it by working with a professional counselor, therapist or credentialed coach. Our attachment style will play out in all of our social relationships and particularly in our loving relationship. To put it in another…

An attachment style is the specific way in which we relate to others in relationships. Attachment styles are very powerful and strongly define how we respond emotionally and in interactions with others as an adult. People differ in their attachment styles based on their early interactions with their primary caregivers, usually their mother and father. Attachment theory was introduced by Mary Ainsworth and John Bowlby in the 1950s. It now has a huge amount of evidence behind its validity. According to their work, attachment styles are shaped and developed in our early childhood as a response to the relationship we…

Commitment makes the difference in a loving relationship, because loving relationships are not easy. The story that Hollywood has sold us is not real. Loving relationships open us up in a way that is beautiful, but at the same time this openness also presents a new challenge, we are exposed and very vulnerable to being hurt, and our deepest wounds are often brought up to the surface. Although this is a challenge, it presents an opportunity to heal. I suggest the purpose of a loving relationship is to help us to heal from our wounds. Escaping through the Rational Mind…

Loves Hidden Policy is a small, local business based in South Florida. Our aim is to help one couple, family or parent-child relationship at a time. We provide face to face sessions and occasionally work on Zoom with a client but this is rarely, as face to face work is much more powerful in our experience than online. We don’t feel Coaching, Counseling, or Therapy is enough anymore by itself, the world has become incredibly face-paced and demanding so we also provide email and voice dictation follow up to all sessions and send education in the form of digital assets…

Cranial Sacral Therapy, or CST, is a hands-on treatment procedure aimed at relieving the tensions in the central nervous system. It was developed by John E. Upledger, an osteopathic physician. While he was assisting a neck surgery in the 1970s, he observed the rhythmic movements which later came to be known as the craniosacral system. He continued his research on cranial bone motion while serving as a clinical researcher and Professor of Biomechanics at Michigan State University. It led to the development of Cranial Sacral Therapy. This article explores the topic in detail and how it helps in boosting your…

Superficial Love As a professional relationship/couples coach I am often helping or teaching others to love each other more, but often not intellectually with goals, as you might think as a coach. The human ego lives in a state of wanting to ‘get more, and wanting to get what we want’ from another, but this is based on ‘getting’ and so is superficial when it comes to a loving relationship. Because pure love for another has no selfish intent, instead it has, an open-hearted, giving nature that fully supports the…

Psychotherapy has been proven to be an effective way to help people heal from various emotional difficulties and mental distresses, and coaching too has proven effective at helping people to achieve what they really want in life. One of the challenges that psychotherapy and coaching has been trying to resolve is to help people struggling with problems that are rooted in memories of a distressing experience. Different types of psychotherapy and coaching, including Neuro-Linguistic Programming have been hardly successful in working with such people. That is where Eye Movement Integration…

EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. It is one of the effective techniques used to treat trauma, post-traumatic stress disorder, and other emotional distresses. EMDR helps people to heal from symptoms and emotional distresses that are a result of traumatic experiences in the past. It helps to lessen the impact of memories or traumatic experiences on an individual. Defining EMDR EDMR uses rhythmic left-right (bilateral) brain stimulation as a method to treat people suffering from trauma and emotional distresses. It focuses directly on the traumatic memory or event…

← Read or Listen to our Loves Hidden Policy Articles Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), which is commonly referred to as EFT tapping, is a powerful treatment that desensitizes negative emotions that are not beneficial, or physical or psychological distress or physical pain. It is best used by someone skilled in psychology (therapist, psychotherapist, coach, etc.) because the emotional language used alongside EFT benefits the overall outcome. If someone has a good understanding of their emotional world they can self-administer the technique, but better results will be experienced with a skilled EFT practitioner to support the process. EFT is both a…

Communication breakdowns happen with most people, all the time. It can be a matter of seconds for a positive conversation to turn negative which often take a toll on relationships. If you are someone looking forward to having constructive and positive conversations with people close to you, the transactional analysis model could help you. It is a type of psychological model that examines an individual’s interactions and communications. It is widely regarded as a fundamental therapy that helps individuals reach their peak potential, but some experienced coaches may use this…

← Read or Listen to our Loves Hidden Policy Articles A loving relationship is key to keeping your daily emotional and mental health intact, more so than many studies anticipated before. To be in a loving relationship with someone and envision a future together, even if a little anxious or nervous in the early stages, is a powerful heart opening experience like no other. Later on if the relationship develops: a loving, secure relationship significantly impacts confidence, inner security, fulfillment and happiness. It is now becoming clear the impact a loving  relationship has on our health, due to dramatically reducing…

← Read or Listen to our Loves Hidden Policy Articles Many studies now show a healthy, loving relationship brings a multitude of emotional and psychological benefits. It is a fact that people who have supportive and healthy, loving relationships are less likely to succumb to stress and anxiety, etc. but research now confirms a loving relationship helps us to lead a longer, more productive life with increased resilience, but what about sleep? A healthy, loving relationship improves us psychosocially and positively affects our sleep. We know it, we feel it, regardless of what studies show. But before we look at…

Society today is very unpredictable, but our loving relationship should not be. A loving relationship should be stability building, consistent and deeply caring because as human-beings we are built for safety. Safety is our primary emotional need, greater than all of our other emotional needs including sex. Sex without a foundation of safety and connection may be thrilling and meet our excitement and bodily needs, but will most likely not build a lasting relationship. Because safety is the primary need for us as human-beings. Children must have safety in their lives…

← Read or Listen to our Loves Hidden Policy Articles Life in 2020, due to the pandemic shifted to computer, tablet, and phone screens. With electronic screens literally becoming our windows to the world for the majority of us, with the exception of close family life. The amount of time we spent on our devices significantly increased with the changing world, and this happened for children too. But screens take away a large part of our social interaction and visual attention needs, direct eye contact in our daily life is extremely important. Most of us are not aware of the…

← Read or Listen to our Loves Hidden Policy Articles The importance of effective communication is often discussed in business circles as well as personal therapy, or in coaching sessions. Communication is important to work on as we learn and grow personally and professionally. But our honesty threshold is often overlooked. Today, people are investing huge amounts of time and money into learning better communication skills, sales and marketing techniques, working with a personal trainer, and dressing for success. But few courses are taught about honesty and authenticity, and far too few of us are thinking about this. What will…

← Read or Listen to our Loves Hidden Policy Articles Human beings are essentially a species that depends on cooperation and connection to survive and thrive. We are naturally a pro-social being, and the desire for cooperation and connection is evident in all aspects of human life. We have an urge to connect to those around us: colleagues, friends, family and our loving partner for intimacy. This is fundamentally an instinctive driver. When we are deprived of meaningful connections, or enough emotional support we are more likely to experience stress, mental worries, or even depression. The reality is we are…

← Read or Listen to our Loves Hidden Policy Articles Can Humans Really Smell Emotions? People affect you. They just do. Is this chemistry or does smell affect us? I suggest both but more recent studies show that humans can smell emotional states with their noses even if they may not be conscious of what they are smelling. The human nose, or more specifically the olfactory tract that sends neural signals to the brain and amygdala is a rapid communication system that affects us far faster than verbal communication. Our human systems have evolved over millions of years phylogenetically to…

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